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Since tipping became an issue on another thread, I was curious as to the tipping habits of SoWallers. See attahched poll.
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60Beach Fanatic
TIPS= To Insure Proper Service. My wife was a waitress and worked for years at IHOP. She learned a very long time ago how and why most people leave tips. Now when you go into an IHOP restaraunt with small children, they give you crayons and a place mat the children can color on. MY wife carried crayons in her apron for this, long before IHOP ever started doing it. My wife could leave the house to go to work and be so mad at me for one reason or the other, and get to work and treat her customers like they were the most special people in the world. Yes my wife knew what she was doing and was a very very special person.
tebo 
You're wife was a pioneer and a professional people person sounds like. How long has she been gone from this world? 
Beach Lover
My wife and love of my life pasted away August 29 of this year. You are right, she was a very special person.
Beach Fanatic
OMG, so recent, so sorry, tebo. How many years were ya'll married? Do you have any family or children nearby? Were you alone for the holiday? I bet you missed your wife's cookin' this year. 
I bet you missed your wife's cookin' this year. Beach Lover
Kristi, we were married for right at 30 yrs. I have some of her family close by, which is a blessing. I chose to visit her gravesite on Thanksgiving and be thahkful for the years we shared together. I miss almost everything about her. We fussed like everyone else, but you don't really know and can't imagine what the loss encompass' until you have lossed the main persson in your life. This is making me feel really bad, but I am happy to share the thoughts with someone who seems to care. I miss everything about her.
SoWal Insider
tebo, please join the rest of us and post often.
Take care.
Take care.
Beach Fanatic
Kristi, we were married for right at 30 yrs. I have some of her family close by, which is a blessing. I chose to visit her gravesite on Thanksgiving and be thahkful for the years we shared together. I miss almost everything about her. We fussed like everyone else, but you don't really know and can't imagine what the loss encompass' until you have lossed the main persson in your life. This is making me feel really bad, but I am happy to share the thoughts with someone who seems to care. I miss everything about her.Sorry, I didn't mean to get you feelin' sad. Hubba and I have been married goin' on 28 years. I can't imagine how lonely I would be without him. After I lost my Dad at 60, 8 years ago to a form of Leukemia, I started really freakin' out that Hubba was gonna die too and then I remembered. Oh yeah, we're all gonna die, I just hope it's much later and like in our sleep or somethin'.
I'm glad you have family nearby. Guess what you now have a whole sowal message board family here too. I think people do really care about other people and it shows in families like this 'crazy' Sowal message board family. We really
each other too even though we sometimes get in to 'it". I bet you will miss her forever. Try and remember just the happy stuff because there was a lot of it I am sure.
Happy spirits will keep her in a very special place always. Tebo, as long as you can keep on reaching out to others and taking good care of yourself in the meantime, you will get through this. You know that's how she would have wanted it. Do you have any hobbies you really like to help keep you busy? 
Whatever you do, keep on postin'!
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SWGBAuthor
See post above yours. We still can't...swgb still has some learning to do.
I apologize, would you like me to delete it? I knew we couldn't use the word on here, didn't realize we couldn't link to it.
SoWal Expert
I think you can post a link, but you should give warning if it has potty mouth in it, so that people who are SoWalling at work won't get in trouble with Whitey.
SoWal Insider
I think you can post a link, but you should give warning if it has potty mouth in it, so that people who are SoWalling at work won't get in trouble with Whitey.
does everyone work for Whiteyfunn?
(I'm sorry....for the longest when I first started lurking on here I actually thought RO worked for Whiteyfunn...'cause he always said that)SoWal Expert
"Whitey" is a reference to Steve Martin's film, "The Jerk," and it basically means the boss, as in, during slavery, the White man was always the boss. Now a black female can be Whitey. It is just whomever you happen to be working for. Uncle Sam can also be Whitey, since most of us work from January thru April or May to pay The Man. By the way, nowadays, a woman can also be "The Man."
None of this has anything to do with our Whiteyfunn, unless of course, you are working for her.
None of this has anything to do with our Whiteyfunn, unless of course, you are working for her.
Beach Fanatic
If you sympathize with the following video you should never, never, never, never, ever, ever, ever, ever eat out again.;-)
Warning strong language contained.
Beach Fanatic
Sucked all ya in.. I'll give ya the tip cuz ya can't tank the whole thing!!!!
SWGBAuthor
Sucked all ya in.. I'll give ya the tip cuz ya can't tank the whole thing!!!!
Wha duh?
I'm confused.SoWal Insider
Wha duh?
SoWal Insider
Sucked all ya in.. I'll give ya the tip cuz ya can't tank the whole thing!!!!
this is for the above comment and for the end of the VIDEO!!!SWGBAuthor
I've only watched that clip about 10-20 times.
SoWal Guide
20% (or more) for restaurant servers, hair dressers, massage therapists, and other services.
regarding buffet style - this is really kind of up to you. any good rule of thumb anyone? also, today punzy and I ate at Smiling Fish (my favorite place on all of 30A!), we order and pay at the register. they bring the food when its ready. tip at the register or at the table, and how much?
regarding buffet style - this is really kind of up to you. any good rule of thumb anyone? also, today punzy and I ate at Smiling Fish (my favorite place on all of 30A!), we order and pay at the register. they bring the food when its ready. tip at the register or at the table, and how much?
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SoWal Insider
It's actually fun to tip those who exceed your expectations. Being generous to good servers is it's own reward. I also find tipping to be a great tell on those with whom you are dining.
SWGBAuthor
It's actually fun to tip those who exceed your expectations. Being generous to good servers is it's own reward. I also find tipping to be a great tell on those with whom you are dining.[/quote]
That is true, I will only glance at your tip amount once and then pad mine if your cheap. Then you can dine on your own in case the server has a really good memory and decides to "garnish" your no tipping A$$.
Beach Fanatic
Does everybody tip their hair stylist 20% too. The bill is usually so high if you get color or a few weaves. I tip wait staff way more than a hair stylist. It is still ususally a 12 -20 tip depending on the service though. and a massage,,,,ot oh. I didn't know you were spozed to. :shock: I was in the person's home shop once for a massage, does that matter? Why would I tip on top of good payment in that case? Is that different or not? How about when Hubba got me a gift certificate at a salon for a massage? I was supposed to tip? Ooops. Does everybody tip for massage? 
Isn't it all different depending what service you are being provided? Oh yeah, maybe I'll go research on Wiki about the hair and massage. I sure don't want to be a cheapskate. ;-)
I tip wait staff way more than a hair stylist. It is still ususally a 12 -20 tip depending on the service though. and a massage,,,,ot oh. I didn't know you were spozed to. :shock: I was in the person's home shop once for a massage, does that matter? Why would I tip on top of good payment in that case? Is that different or not? How about when Hubba got me a gift certificate at a salon for a massage? I was supposed to tip? Ooops. Does everybody tip for massage? Isn't it all different depending what service you are being provided? Oh yeah, maybe I'll go research on Wiki about the hair and massage. I sure don't want to be a cheapskate. ;-)
SoWal Expert
It's actually fun to tip those who exceed your expectations. Being generous to good servers is it's own reward. I also find tipping to be a great tell on those with whom you are dining.[/quote]
That is true, I will only glance at your tip amount once and then pad mine if your cheap. Then you can dine on your own in case the server has a really good memory and decides to "garnish" your no tipping A$$.
I'm nominating this one for Post of the Year.
SeacrestKristi -- Yes, massage therapists get tipped. I usu. tip 20% to them. When I've bought gift certificates for massages to give as gifts, they don't let me include a tip, because they have no idea who will be giving the massage and it is too difficult to keep track of allocation of the cash, especially when a gift certificate may be valid for six months or a year. So, instead, I just enclose a $20 bill with the gift certificate and let the recipient know that it is for the tip. It is a bummer when you work in the customer service business and, even though you might be paid well, a customer leaves without tipping. You feel almost rejected, or that you didn't do your job well, because most people tip. As a couple people have mentioned, it is funn to tip heavy sometimes. It may change the attitude of the person for the remainder of the day and make them feel special. It is the gift which makes US feel good. It isn't always possible to tip heavy, but you shouldn't always stick to your guns about 20%, especially if the bill is under $10. WoW somebody every once in a while.
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Beach Lover
Tipping an extra dollar or five on top of a 20% tip is one of the few times a single buck allows me to feel generous...and it lets the servers know they did a great job.
It is funn to leave an extra five or so at a place like IHOP, where it may come as a surprise and mean something to a weary server.
*** Question: What do you bonus your regular servers, bartenders, hair stylists, cleaning crew, etc, at the holidays?
Does the manager at a favorite spot get a "holiday gift", too?
It is funn to leave an extra five or so at a place like IHOP, where it may come as a surprise and mean something to a weary server.
*** Question: What do you bonus your regular servers, bartenders, hair stylists, cleaning crew, etc, at the holidays?
Does the manager at a favorite spot get a "holiday gift", too?
SoWal Expert
Good questions, josebby. My dad used to tip all the waitresses at his favorite restaurant $100 each Christmas, but the man eats at the same restaurant at least five times a week for the entire year. As for me, I'd be broke if I did that. I prefer to give them gifts year round, usually things I make which are more personalized than cash, and a lot easier on my wallet. One time when I typically tip heavy is when I know a server had a slow day (no business).
SoWal Expert
I never know who gets tipped and who doesn't. What makes one job "tip worthy" and others not?
I think great service should always be recognized and rewarded in monetary or non-monetary form, but know I've definitely committed a few unintentional tip gaffes in my day.
I think great service should always be recognized and rewarded in monetary or non-monetary form, but know I've definitely committed a few unintentional tip gaffes in my day.
Beach Fanatic
I'm nominating this one for Post of the Year.
SeacrestKristi -- Yes, massage therapists get tipped. I usu. tip 20% to them. When I've bought gift certificates for massages to give as gifts, they don't let me include a tip, because they have no idea who will be giving the massage and it is too difficult to keep track of allocation of the cash, especially when a gift certificate may be valid for six months or a year. So, instead, I just enclose a $20 bill with the gift certificate and let the recipient know that it is for the tip. It is a bummer when you work in the customer service business and, even though you might be paid well, a customer leaves without tipping. You feel almost rejected, or that you didn't do your job well, because most people tip. As a couple people have mentioned, it is funn to tip heavy sometimes. It may change the attitude of the person for the remainder of the day and make them feel special. It is the gift which makes US feel good. It isn't always possible to tip heavy, but you shouldn't always stick to your guns about 20%, especially if the bill is under $10. WoW somebody every once in a while.
Hmmm, interesting. I always thought of them as a licensed professional, like a nurse, who wouldn't take tips, like ethically.
Don't get me wrong, I do like to tip wait staff 20+ for good service and extra at Xmas at our favorite place.
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